I have always been a naturally anxious person; I can remember being extremely stressed and concerned, even as a child. My husband is the fun one and I'm the worrier. However, after my daughter was born 3 years ago, I struggled with pretty serious postpartum anxiety, which took things to a whole other level. I've come a far way from then; however, even now, there are days where I feel the crushing weight of pressure on my chest, which paralyzes me from doing anything productive (which, conveniently enough, gives me even more anxiety about all the things I need to do). Thankfully, I have found some useful tools, strategies, and coping mechanisms, for the Bad Anxiety Days.
I know, I know. Everyone and their mama is talking about the importance of self-care for mothers. Well, guess what?! Everyone and their mama is right.
It is really freakin' important. And it's not just spa dates and shopping trips and expensive Starbucks coffees (although it can be those things #treatyoself).
So, what's a mom to do when she's short on cash but in desperate need of a little self-care?
Check out the list below for 44 self-care strategies that won't break the bank!
What simple strategies would you add to this list?
Hey Mama. I see you. You're doing 2 (or 3 or 7) full-time jobs and you're not sure how you're going to survive. You want to have it all - the 6 (or 7) figure business and the Mother of the Year award. And girl, I am not here to tell you that you can't have it all. Because you totally can.
However, if you aren't willing to take a step back sometimes, to take care of yourself, you'll burn out long before you get it.
Managing family life and a business is hard; trust me, I know. But mama, if you don't take care of yourself, who will? So, here are some simple strategies, ideas, and inspiration to help you find that balance between raising your babies and building that business.
1. Make a List of what fills your cup
Make a list of the things you love to do. The things that fill your soul, that bring you happiness, that make you feel like you. Some of the things on my list include:
Write your list. Then, for the next week, commit to doing one thing from your list every single day. Schedule these self care activities (because what gets scheduled gets done) and reflect at the end of the week on how you feel.
2. Work during work hours
If you're anything like me (or, who I used to be), Work Hours are from the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep. I'm going to challenge you to cut that the F out.
Set working hours and during those hours - work. Whole-heartedly, without distraction, doing whatever you can to stay focused.
And then, when work is over? Put it down. Walk away. When it is time to be Mom, be her 100%.
3. STart your morning right
Do you have a morning routine? If it looks something like, "Oh shit! It's 7:47am and we've got to be at school in 13 minutes!!" I want to encourage you to readjust the way your morning operates. If you haven't, read The Miracle Morning (there's also a version for entrepreneurs and for families). Find a way to bring calm into your morning, whether that's reading some inspirational, sitting in prayer or meditation, or getting a workout in - mama, whatever works for you and your sanity is what you need to do.
4. Eat right and exercise
Ugh, this sounds so simple, right? And I'm not saying you need to work out for hours every day or only drink kale smoothies for breakfast; life is about balance, after all.
But I want to encourage you to find a workout routine that works for you. Maybe that's spin class on the weekend with a girlfriend. Maybe it's a nightly walk with your family. Maybe it's working out in your living room and maybe it's going to the gym 3 evenings a week.
Move your body in a way that makes you feel good. Fuel your body in a way that makes you feel good. The specifics don't matter. What matters is that every single day, you find a way to love yourself, to care for yourself, so that you are best equipped to rock your business and be the best mom you can be.
5. Breathe, girl. Breathe.
I mean, obviously you're breathing. But how often do you stop and sit with your breath and the silence? Whether it's meditation, quiet reflection, or hiding in the bathroom for a minute to regain your sanity during the after school hustle and bustle, you need to take time to just breathe.
You do so much for so many people. Take a second, press pause, and show yourself some self love. Reflect on the good things that happened today. Count to 10 and focus solely on the breath. It feels good, I promise.
What are your favourite self-care strategies? I'd love to hear what you do to fill your own cup. If you're looking for a community of like-minded women who love to talk self-care, jump into my free Facebook community here!