I have always been a naturally anxious person; I can remember being extremely stressed and concerned, even as a child. My husband is the fun one and I'm the worrier. However, after my daughter was born 3 years ago, I struggled with pretty serious postpartum anxiety, which took things to a whole other level. I've come a far way from then; however, even now, there are days where I feel the crushing weight of pressure on my chest, which paralyzes me from doing anything productive (which, conveniently enough, gives me even more anxiety about all the things I need to do). Thankfully, I have found some useful tools, strategies, and coping mechanisms, for the Bad Anxiety Days.
After recently finishing a 10-week, small group counselling session with a lot of homework, I feel even more strongly about the power of writing stuff out on paper. For me, this looks like a few different things.
I'm not exactly what you'd call a "crunchy mom." Still, I can't deny the powerful, positive effects certain essential oils have had for my anxiety.
This month, my husband and I gave each other 3 things we would like each other to do to help our relationship. One of the tasks my husband gave me?
Leave the house every day.
As a work-from-home mom (especially when we had the coldest, longest winter), I have often found myself coming to the end of the day and realizing I haven't left my house. Those 8 freezing months of winter were when my anxiety really peaked over the past year; I've learned that I need to get out and be in the world, especially when I am feeling utterly alone in my anxiety.
My husband recognizes this about me and so he has put it on my to-do list. I'm a better wife and mama when I'm not stuck in that space.
Is this always easy? No. I'm not going to lie. But forcing myself to get out of the house, even just to walk around the block, has always helped my breath a little better through the anxiety.
3 Things Only To Do List
Look, most of my to-do lists? They are crazy long. Sometimes, I'll even write things down after I've finished them, just to cross them off. But when I'm feeling pretty incapable of doing anything? My 3 things only to-do list can be just what I need.
I write down 3 things I need to do: 1 business/work related, 1 house/cleaning, 1 mom/wife life. It might look like this:
I don't think I have all the answers when it comes to anxiety. But these are some simple strategies that have worked in my own life to help with the over-thinking, second-guessing, and inability to get my mind to cooperate. How do you deal with anxiety?