Hey Mama. I see you. You're doing 2 (or 3 or 7) full-time jobs and you're not sure how you're going to survive. You want to have it all - the 6 (or 7) figure business and the Mother of the Year award. And girl, I am not here to tell you that you can't have it all. Because you totally can.
However, if you aren't willing to take a step back sometimes, to take care of yourself, you'll burn out long before you get it.
Managing family life and a business is hard; trust me, I know. But mama, if you don't take care of yourself, who will? So, here are some simple strategies, ideas, and inspiration to help you find that balance between raising your babies and building that business.
1. Make a List of what fills your cup
Make a list of the things you love to do. The things that fill your soul, that bring you happiness, that make you feel like you. Some of the things on my list include:
Write your list. Then, for the next week, commit to doing one thing from your list every single day. Schedule these self care activities (because what gets scheduled gets done) and reflect at the end of the week on how you feel.
2. Work during work hours
If you're anything like me (or, who I used to be), Work Hours are from the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep. I'm going to challenge you to cut that the F out.
Set working hours and during those hours - work. Whole-heartedly, without distraction, doing whatever you can to stay focused.
And then, when work is over? Put it down. Walk away. When it is time to be Mom, be her 100%.
3. STart your morning right
Do you have a morning routine? If it looks something like, "Oh shit! It's 7:47am and we've got to be at school in 13 minutes!!" I want to encourage you to readjust the way your morning operates. If you haven't, read The Miracle Morning (there's also a version for entrepreneurs and for families). Find a way to bring calm into your morning, whether that's reading some inspirational, sitting in prayer or meditation, or getting a workout in - mama, whatever works for you and your sanity is what you need to do.
4. Eat right and exercise
Ugh, this sounds so simple, right? And I'm not saying you need to work out for hours every day or only drink kale smoothies for breakfast; life is about balance, after all.
But I want to encourage you to find a workout routine that works for you. Maybe that's spin class on the weekend with a girlfriend. Maybe it's a nightly walk with your family. Maybe it's working out in your living room and maybe it's going to the gym 3 evenings a week.
Move your body in a way that makes you feel good. Fuel your body in a way that makes you feel good. The specifics don't matter. What matters is that every single day, you find a way to love yourself, to care for yourself, so that you are best equipped to rock your business and be the best mom you can be.
5. Breathe, girl. Breathe.
I mean, obviously you're breathing. But how often do you stop and sit with your breath and the silence? Whether it's meditation, quiet reflection, or hiding in the bathroom for a minute to regain your sanity during the after school hustle and bustle, you need to take time to just breathe.
You do so much for so many people. Take a second, press pause, and show yourself some self love. Reflect on the good things that happened today. Count to 10 and focus solely on the breath. It feels good, I promise.
What are your favourite self-care strategies? I'd love to hear what you do to fill your own cup. If you're looking for a community of like-minded women who love to talk self-care, jump into my free Facebook community here!
When I'm folding laundry, cooking dinner, driving to Kindermusik classes, or flying on a plane - there is a good chance that I am listening to podcasts on my phone. Podcasts have made it easier than ever to access information, education, inspiration, and entertainment.
Check out my 5 favourite boss babe podcasts below - for when you need motivation or to learn a new skill or when you're feeling blah in your business and need a boost.
1. Social MEdia to Sales Podcast
2. Rich B****
3. The chalene Show
4. Style Your Mind Podcast
5. Real Talk with Rachel Luna
So, these are my top 5 boss babe podcasts - I seriously listen to these women all day, every day! What are your favourite podcasts that you would add to this list?
1. Abandon the 9-5
It's time to ditch the idea of a typical workday and start thinking "nap-to-nap." You don't need to sit down for 8 hours to get your work done; I mean, isn't that the beauty of being your own boss?! Your business can be built before your kids wake up, during nap times, and after everyone is asleep. Of course, there are certain appointments or activities that must be accomplished during the day, but don't feel like you need to accomplish everything in the traditional 9-5 structure.
2. Schedule, Schedule, Schedule
I've said it before and I'll say it again: What gets scheduled, gets done. And I'm not just talking about your business, I'm talking about your entire life.
That means, when you're planning out your daily or weekly tasks and goals, include non-work related items like when you're going to workout, when you're going to take a bubble bath, and when you're going to have family time. For me, that means scheduling weekly games nights and mid-day time to play with my daughter. Even if we have no structured plans, having that scheduled time reminds me of my priorities and helps me step away from my business to play my most important role: being her mom.
3. Meal plan and Prep
Nope, meal plans and meal prep are not just for weight loss! They're also great to help save the busy mompreneur's sanity. Having a plan and being prepared will save you time, save money, and save yourself the 5pm madness of "Shoot, what's for dinner?!" Here are some tips to get started (you'll find TONS of great sample plans and even more recipes on Pinterest!)
4. Find (or Create) A village
It takes a village to raise a child. So don't try and do this parenting thing all on your own. Communicate with your partner about how they can help you -- after all, you are juggling two full-time jobs. Figure out how to parent and how to share the household duties so that you're on the same page. Also, make sure you tell him how grateful you are for all his help!! (Hey, remember that scheduling thing? Schedule a date night!!)
Let's say your spouse is less than supportive, works out of town, or maybe isn't in the picture. What's a girl to do?
Honey, it's time to create a village for yourself. Go on Facebook for groups of moms in your city and look for a mama to swap childcare or stressful stories with. Hire a cleaning lady to come once a month or every 2 weeks to help around the house. Find a church, a mom group, or a book club help you survive. This article lists, in more detail, 7 ways to find and create your own village as a mom.
5. Take care of YOU
Your kids need a happy mom, not a perfect one. And the only person who can truly give them the happy mom they need? It's you. Remember, there will never be enough time in the day to get everything done. It's pretty much impossible. Your inbox will be full forever, so just accept it. You house will be a little messy and that's ok.
You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of your family and your business. So, schedule your workout, take that bubble bath, and find time for a drink with your girlfriends. Trust me. You'll be a better mama and mompreneur for it.
Now, Ditch the guilt and get out there, mama!
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